The line here is obvious, but still pretty fine and frail. The essay in general is filled with some good things to chew on, though probably not take at face value.
“The reason why most vanilla men get off on the whole whore-slut thing is because it allows them to avoid responsibility, especially the responsibility of showing some caring or feeling toward one’s lover. (Milan Kundera wrote a wonderful, chilling story about a vanilla man and his lover who, to spice up their love life, decide to “pretend” that she’s his whore for the day. That experience and the strong feelings of cruelty and alienation [rather sickly combined with eroticism] that both partners feel is enough to shatter the relationship. The tale also explores what it’s like to be humiliated in an emotionally destructive way [as opposed to the wonderful sexy way that skilled D&S couples practice]. I don’t have the anthology that this story came from in front of me but it was probably either The Farewell Party or Laughable Loves.)”
From The Iron Gate
